"She was a fine woman. A perfect gentlewoman. She had
taken life, as she liked a cup of tea--weak, with an exquisite aroma and
plenty of cream and sugar."
-Henry James, De Grey: A Romance
Also, none of us is desperate to meet you or any other man. Some of the ladies ARE interested in meeting Mr. Submissive Right, but not all, and don't assume that you are he. The ladies are not usually going to play with you on the first meeting. Neatness, promptness, good manners and meeting the lady's requirements are going to be pluses. Approaching a lady with the idea of what YOU are going to get out of this is not a winning attitude.
The ladies listed below are only a few of the 100 or so on the tea invitation list.
Lady Mary is the Grande Domme of our group. She is Lady Cynthia's mother, and an inspiration to all of us. She is not "officially" a domme. She identifies as vanilla and does not attend teas where the servers are unclothed. Like several other ladies, she "doesn't want to have naked men handling her food." She is, however, a wonderful lady in her early 80s. And she dearly loves foot rubs. She does attend teas where the servers are covered. This is one reason that we do have teas with servers who are attired in other than bow ties alone.
Although she claims not to be dominant or a sadist, Domina is convinced she is both. Lady Cynthia had to get her proclivities from somewhere. And there was the time that Lady Mary poured peppermint flavoring on a fresh tongue piercing of one of Domina's slaves...
Lady Mary would be interested in a "young man, in his sixties" who likes to give foot rubs, cook, and do dishes.
We are blessed to have this lovely, open minded lady among us. You can write to Lady Mary through Lady Cynthia.
KitNboots, aka Margaret, enjoys being involved in the local bdsm/fetish community, and encourages others to do the same. She currently serves on smOdyssey's Board of Directors, and helps out on the smO Education and Outreach Committees.
As lovely as she is classy, Margaret is a true Lady in every sense, and appreciates a gentleman submissive with whom to explore her particular brand of velvet-glove-over-steel-hand dominance. She enjoys playing dress up in a variety of fetish and historical costume, and never takes her tea the same way twice during a tea party. *grins*
Write to KitNBoots @ Kitnboots@aol.com
Caz is the famous Blind Blonde Domme, (also known as the Blind Bitch) who has graced our parties almost from the beginning. She co-produced the famous Byzantine Bazaar with Domina and they are planning to start them up again. Caz is one of the most skilled and talented dominants in the bay area. You'll be able to see her soon at http://www.blindbitch.com/
Caz runs potlucks and parties in the North bay, and has a gorgeous home dungeon.
She's in the North Bay, and is always interested in hearing from properly submissive applicants.
MZCAZameana@aol.com
She currently runs the Modesto Discussion Group which she started with Domina. She teaches BDSM classes for SMOdyssey and is one of the most knowledgeable dommes I've met.
Lady Cynthia has a web site HERE
Email should be sent to:
Atheris is a writer, and a very, very good one. She writes mostly BDSM erotica, and her webpage, Dark Side of Passion is a wonderful resource.
With Mistress Miranda and Tatiana, she runs the FantasyMakers Academy where many classes are held. She also teaches classes on piercing and other forms of medical play. She and Domina have been writing a book on temporary piercing.
She makes floggers and other toys for the Frugal Domme and you can sometimes catch her at various events with the Frugal Domme team.
Atheris resides in the Bay Area, but is active in the Modesto Discussion Group. She currently has a collared sub.
LdyS lives on the left coast. Savors the spices of life. Adores submissive energy and the power exchange inherent in the passions of D/s. Manners matter to this newageoldfashioned Lady.
Often accused of being patient, do not mistake this kindness
for weakness.
Smarter than the average bear, LdyS sometimes
wishes for an hour or two of boredom.
There are always plays to see, books to read and reviews to
write, stores to tell and people to meet. So far, no time for
boredom.
LdyS
is a Taoist and practicing pragmatist. Working for old people, in general
doing what needs to be done for their well-being, especially at the end of
life, is a source of joy and enough American dollars to pay the dry
cleaner.
Sensations and eliciting erotic responses are
favorite things. Specializing in solutions, a sense of humor and quick wit
are wonderful approaches to nearly any situation.
Polite inquiries are always
welcome.
Additional information may be found nearly anywhere else.
You may email Lady S @ sarahhrt@hotmail.com
Domina is the head of our training committee. She is married to her male sub, Feynman. Domina insists she is a confirmed sadist and we have photos to prove it. Domina and her family (which includes Lady Cynthia, the Frugal Auntie and Atheris) make and sell D/s toys (check out their page, The Frugal Domme), so it's only natural Domina should be able to use them. Domina is also a retired professional dominant under the name Lady Lilith.
She teaches many different classes in the Bay and Central Valley area.
She wants to make it clear to you that she is a middle aged and white haired, though Feynman insists she is beautiful. (However, he may be just a bit prejudiced.)
Since she is admittedly a "mommy domme" (meaning a soft, cuddly domme as opposed to the "bitch goddess" types), Domina tends to mother a lot of her submissive friends and play partners. Its not that easy to get on her buddy list, however. She and her slave husband are totally devoted to each other, and no one else is going to do THAT relationship any damage. She's often willing to have lunch or coffee with a guysub and just talk or give him advice. Don't expect that to lead to a position in her household, though she is looking for a houseboy (non-live-in). If you want her to add you to her household, you have to be something VERY special. After all, you'd be competing with femsubs, too. She is definitely an equal opportunity dominant. Even giving her yellow or peach colored roses isn't likely to impress her TOO much. Though it might get you a second lunch date. She is a sucker for romantic gestures.
She is willing to exchange email as long as you are respectful. Please don't send her (or any of us) email saying, "I need a Mistress in the Aleutian Islands." as she does not identify as a dating service.
Tawnie is a red haired dynamo of a domme who lives in Fresno. She's
started the Fresno Munch (info can be found
There is also a Fresno branch of the tea society with less formal rules, so you can always try writing to Mistress Tawnie and seeing if she has any events available for you to serve at.
Tawnie is the winner of the 2003 Iron Domme contest held at the Scenery.
She has gorgeous legs and is into foot fetishists.